Our Stories
Darrell
& Nevin
Kent
& Kari
David
& Maggie
Laura
& Chris
Kent and Kari's Story
Sixteen years ago, Kent drove me across Vail Pass and up a winding road
to a waiting helicopter. He then surprised me by having us actually get
in the helicopter, which "dropped us off" on top of one of the
highest peaks in Colorado! He pulled out a bottle of champagne from his
backpack, popped the cork, and we shared a glass of the bubbly. It was
a gorgeous spring day in the Rockies...not a cloud in the sky...and we
were as close to the sky as you can get. We toasted to the whole beautiful
scene. He then told me he had a question. [YIKES!] He said if I answered
it the right way, I'd get a ride down the mountain. If I answered it the
wrong way, I'd have to find my own way down! I said I'd marry him of course.
He knew I would. We were so happy, it was so romantic, and we were so
in love. We were married in August that year and proceeded to live life,
have 3 kids, and move to Maryland.
Thirteen years later, we were sitting in an ugly office in Rockvillle,
MD in mediation, preparing to divorce. We were at each other's throats,
and the mediator looked at us and said "You two need an Imago therapist;
if not for you, for the sake of your kids." I took her advice, wrote
down several phone numbers, and set an appointment with the first one
to call me back, Donna Bowman. I had no intention of staying in the relationship
at that point. I had no idea where this path would lead.
Now it's 3 years later. The Imago dialogue is so powerful in creating
connection. We would not be together if it weren't for finding Donna and
her knowledge of "The Dialogue," the process, and the importance
of creating safety. This August, we will be married 16 years. And in August
2006, not only will we be married 18 years, but we will be able to do
"The Dialogue" ALL BY OURSELVES...Hedy said so!